Let me guess, you’re sitting with a coffee in one hand and a book on another while your friends chatter away about the recent trip that they had, that you were not even invited to? If that’s true, then this is the right place for you!
Often, our friends misinterpret our lack of confidence as being ‘boring’ and as we all know, the only thing worse than being boring is being labeled as ‘boring’. The reputation itself makes other people run in the opposite direction. Eventually, you’re left with just one friend- your cat.
One essential trick to not be boring is to stay relevant and be confident. You might be a very interesting person who cracks really funny jokes in their head, but the real deal is how you communicate it to other people without boring them.
Our list of ways of how not to be boring will give you a push in the right direction and assist you in being the popular and funny person of the group!
Take risks
The first step to the staircase of not being boring is to be a risk-taker. Boring people resort to their comfort zones most of the time and are busy talking about only what they know and have experienced. To not be boring, you need to actively engage with people. Here’s one way how you can engage with people easily- talk about things you don’t know!
It will give the impression of you being curious and will get people to talk to you about whichever topic they like. Go ahead and ask that girl where she bought her headband from and if she can help you shop some – take risks and watch yourself transform into a confident person who’s easily approachable and not boring!
Remember, being unable to take risks and crawling back to your corner each time somebody communicates with you is what makes you boring. It’s time to tighten your laces and get the boring tag off!
Initiate conversations
The best way to appeal to people is by communicating. Since you’ve learned to take risks now, it’s time for you to initiate conversations with people. Not always will people approach you, but it’s up to you if you can manage to get them talking. Boring individuals tend to exist in their own space and not know how to start a good conversation with anybody.
Part of the trick of not being boring is by always staying relevant; discuss trending topics, music, ongoing news, etc. Furthermore, initiating conversations will help you learn about new subjects as well, which is a win-win situation!
However, discussing music with a book-lover who has little to no idea about music may not be the best idea. So, keep in mind the interests of the person in front of you, and start conversing!
Don’t try too hard
One common mistake while the process of not being boring is overdoing it. Even though it might seem like the only objective of your life is to be popular among your friends, it is wrong. If working hard towards not being boring makes your life harder and mental health unstable, maybe you are trying too hard.
Getting rid of the boredom around you should be refreshing and help you gain confidence, not pull you down further. Moreover, being too ‘pushy’ around people may eventually shove them even further away by tagging you as boring. Instead, take things slow, and watch as people get comfortable around you.
Time to change things up!
Performing the same routine tasks every day can be quite boring, and make your personality monotonous as well. Your daily schedule can have a big impact on how you appear to people and how you approach and interact with them. The solution to that problem is to change things up! Every day is a new day which should be spent in a new way; at least a part of it, if not more.
Adding a couple of games and fun activities to your schedule might actually make your day less monotonous and contribute to learning new things. Better still, you can also ask your friends who hadn’t invited you to that trip previously, to tag along! It would finally give them the view of the ‘fun’ you and they will not feel like you’re boring anymore.
Leave your inner critic at home
The essential part of the process of not being boring is to keep an open mind. Boring individuals stick to their opinions on subjects and do not like to experience new things, which is a part of the reason why they aren’t invited to ‘fun’ hangouts.
It is your chance to show that you’re open to new experiences and not boring! In addition to that, keeping your judgmental side to yourself shall give the impression that others can be comfortable around you, which is a bonus on your way to not being boring.
Remind yourself to always be kind to others and not perceive new activities in a negative way, and you shall be the regular invitee to all the parties very soon!
Conclusion
As an introvert, it might be a strenuous task to get along with people and not be boring. However, as you gain enough confidence and take things slow, it will just be a matter of time till your life is no longer dull! Therefore, do not deem this as a task that you ‘have’ to perform, but as one that you ‘want’ to because you’re having fun.
If you no longer want to lead a boring schedule and finally want to give up your coffee and book to gossip with your friends, this list will be your best guide. Share this article with your other friends who are struggling to not be boring, and see yourselves become popular!